50-50 chance I have herpes says Dr via phone

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My symptoms: appearance of very small red dots about 5…first discovered 3 weeks ago under the rim of the head of my penis. If I stretch the flacid penis near head to examine, they appear to appear lighter and whitish pink..they only seem red flesh tone if the skin isn’t stretched. They seem rather small. When I stretch the skin under the head, and go over the area with my thumb, it feels smooth and not bumpy. The only conclusion there is that the size is small of these bumps and I only saw them with careful inspection and skin stretching. I only saw one small red dot on the rim which led me to stretch the skin and see 3, 4 or 5 more. The reason I looked is a symptom I have ranged as unsure about at best but I believe that I have felt an intermittent nerve pain in a very specific area that although close to the red dots was really around the corner at the left side of the top of the head. Well, I have been scared and looking for sores at the spot I felt the shooting nerve pain of 3 outta 10..more of a discomfort and feeling of a shooting nerve abnormality rather than something I would describe as pain. That was about 3 months ago in mid Nov. The sex: I had unprotected sex one time maybe twice in the same evening. The girl said she was clean but she did just return from burning man which isn’t comforting. This was the only sex I had in five years since I broke up with a gf 5 years ago and last had unprotected sex with 4 months before she started having weekly sex visits from a guy who I thought was the first who could have given her herpes which she was initially diagnosed for months after we broke up. Anyway with my sleuthing it points in this direction: she went to Canada for a week, I resolved to stop having sex with her for four months during which time she took a partner who she would kick me out every wed nite so she could bang him while I was at karaoke. It seems like she got it after.,we were together 3 years and a couple months.,my only other unprotected partner was a virgin in college at 19 that I was with 5 t0 6 years in 97-2003. Then a hooker in tijuanna with protection in 2004 ten and a half years ago.she kissed me and I had a mouth pimple that seemed not too bad cos it didn’t hurt but idk wanna obsess about that. I had a condom and didn’t cum. A few 5 or less one night stands all with condoms between 2004 and 2006. All that’s a decade ago. I’ve only had sex once in 5 years recently. I had sex once a week through a lot of that last 3yr relationship. Now I have anxiety and paranoia have had herpes on my radar since 2009 when a female friend I like but never did anything at all with came down with it. I’m on seroquel and chlomipramime because of ocd thoughts that produce anxiety and depression. Then my ex got it I really thought with a guy she saw after me. So its in my fears and so I really thought that I may have psychosematically been causing the pain which lead to constant checking and not finding anything for two or three months until the small red dots it took me forever to find. All of the sudden a shooting nerve small sensation has escaleted over the weekend. I wasn’t sure I was feeling the sensation of nerve abnormality in it’s consistent location this weekend. I started loosening my pants and wearing pajamas feeling like I didn’t notice the sporatic shooting nerve mild pain or just feeling that something is off down there. Last nite I loosened my pants off while sitting 3.5 hours playing piano. So when I sat down on another hard chair like the hard piano bench I panicked and called my Dr who is on the opposite side of the country. Tending towards anxiety, I had a second anxiety attack of screaming and crying and heartbeat panic state. I am dying for some hope to quell my panic. My Dr asked the first four questions and I said no pain in urine or puss or discharge. I kept describing how I had shooting pains . I for the first time can’t tell where in the top of the penis the pain is shooting. Even the base and balls seem to have the pain now as I’m panicky but having my parents set up an appointment for which could be a week if its in a few days and it takes a few days to get results back. I will send a pic when I figure out how. You can way in on my odds if you want as I wait the test and fight my panic which incidentally 3 weeks ago led me to call suicide hotline not for suicide but for my wild flailing and yelling about my fear I got herpes. Do you think 50-50 is appropriate odds that I have herpes. I read a recent email entitled is it herpes where the dots didn’t seem like herpes and more normal dots as my penis and I gather any penis has some dots on it. My Dr didn’t like where they were under the head on the part of the head near my stomach. Before he said that about the red dot location, he said fifty fifty but I missed all that part of the diagnoses crying and screaming into a pillow
Could the shootine pain be something else? Can I hope for that with the red dots. He said the pain and the dots where unrelated but it could a been from an ex six years ago or that at one time. Fifty fifty just didn’t seem to go with ur stats like males less likely and 2-12 days after contact is normal time most cases start. Mine being four months at least. My hygiene sucks and a didn’t shower much this winter, I don’t know my odds its pimples or even psychosomatic paranoia or at least added pain level by anxiety? I appreciate your support here and despite my logical fact presentation, I have a lot riding on u to get me thru this week where I’m waiting? Thank you like you wouldn’t believe PS I got 30 day counseling with a shrink and counselors around the corner. Thank you!

[Terri Warren]

I think the odds that you have herpes are way less than 50-50. Way less. I’m a little confused about where the dots are. First you said they are on the head of the penis and then you said they are by your stomach? are they in your pubic hair or on your penis?

Without knowing too much more, the odds of getting herpes at a single encounter are very low – not impossible but low.

Have the dots been around for quite a while? I’m having a little trouble following your timeline. Herpes lesions would not be around for more than a couple of weeks.

Terri

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