Anxiety is back

[crazygirl]

Hi Terri it’s been awhile was doing better now I’m having worries again . Just a recap diagnosed with ghsv2 last October been a year I believe I have had it for 2 years .I have had oral hsv since I was 12 now 43 .. never got the classic outbreak with sores only burning itchy and discharge was told it was bv Dr said not herpes got several opinions actually . Anyway I wrote to u scared about passing this to my friends daughter . A month before I was diagnosed I had what looked like 3 bug bites not clustered very far apart actually . They itched like crazy . My concerns are

If I was itching them them touched her or she sat on my lap could I have transmitted that way?

She gets spots once in awhile back face shoulders legs arms never looked like a herpie but I’m no expert. Sometimes they come and go within a day. And they don’t seem to bother her.
Does this sound like herpes?

Another thing I’m really concerned about is my fingers itch once in awhile and tingle never seen anything pop up . I am very careful when taking my pants and underwear off I make sure I don’t touch them at all I wear a latex gloves in the shower to wash and I don’t masturbate. But I did before I was diagnosed could I have gotten whitlow not knowing I had Hsv. And I just haven’t had an outbreak yet? I read a post a girl got it 15 years later . So I’m freaking out.

It’s weird cause whenever I get cold sores on my lips I always used to pick the skin . I never new anything about this virus till now. .
My main concern is whitlow now what should I not do . I know never touch myself that for sure . Please bare with me as I get through this all your advice is appreciated so much .

[Terri Warren]

If you just touched her body and not her genitals or mouth, there is zero concern, even if you had touched them and they were herpes. Certainly no risk of her sitting in your lap.
The things you describe on the child sound nothing at all like herpes lesions.
Without any visible lesions, I am not concerned about whitlow. And it is totally not necessary to use gloves in the shower not to refrain from masturbation. That is over the top and not necessary. I think you have sort of an anxiety disorder over the herpes situation and seeking help would be such a good idea about this, yes?

Terri

[crazygirl]

Thank u for your answers yes I am having a hard time with this and do need some help . This little girl is everything to me she has never had a sore on her mouth or vagina . The only thing she did have on her but we’re little tiny red bumps from being in a wet diaper alot she would get rashes like most babies . So as of today I saw her she has a red spot on her back up by her shoulder and one on her arm . So yes when I see this my heart starts beating fast and I worry . She never itches though like I said they don’t seem to bother her. . I am working on this I’m so sorry to bother you with it. I’m the only one who knows of my situation so your the only one I hAve to talk to . I promise I will work on this . My questions are

Is it possible to have it on your body only and never on face or vagina .

I have had hsv1 since 12 I hardly get outbreaks . Why is hsv2 so much more active . I get outbreaks quit often mainly itchy don’t see sores . I am very stressed wouldn’t it cause my hsv1 to act up as well . Will this eventually subside a bit after having the new virus for awhile ?

I read your answer about whitlow that I asked about . I have never had a sore or anything . I can live with the genital virus I would be devastated if I ever did get whitlow so I’m not taking any chances . I do wear gloves to wash my area . I don’t think I’ll ever get over that fear of transferring this to my hands . I appreciate your answer on that that it is not necessary but I’m sure u can understand my fear . Thank you so much for your time and patience with me

[Terri Warren]

No, she would not get lesions on her body, like her shoulder, if this was herpes.
HSV 2 just prefers the genital area and thrives there causing more outbreaks than having it orally or than HSV 1 genitally. The itching that you are experiencing may or may not have anything to do with herpes – I would not call that outbreaks without any lesions. For most people, outbreaks decrease in frequency with time passage.

I think it would be so helpful for your to work with a cognitive behavioral psychologist about your fears to try to get past them. Remember this is not just you – it is also your child and you want to be as emotionally healthy as you can possibly be for her as well as yourself.

Terri

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