May 30, 2019 at 1:27 pm #37816
I had mostly unsafe sex with lots and lots of partners in my youth. I’ve been married for over 30 years now and have not been unfaithful to my my wife. We’ve always had unprotected sex and we’ve had 3 children together. I’ve never given any thoughts to STD’s until my Doctor just told me I had genital herpes (type 2 by a swab test). I couldn’t believe my ears. He suggested it may have come from my wife (which is possible but would be equally unbelievable to me). Is it possible I got herpes in my reckless youth over 30 years ago, never knew I had it, had monogamous sex with my wife for over 30 years, had 3 children together, and just now discovered I had it? And is it possible she never got it from me after all these years? If she tests negative she will never believe I’ve been faithful.
June 3, 2019 at 12:21 pm #37951
All the things that you described as possibilities are truly possibilities. You could have had this for 30 years or she could have had it for 30 years and just affected you or she infected you years ago and you didn’t notice oh it’s possible she is not infected. I think it would be wise at this point to have her get an IgG antibody test. So you have a genital lesion that your doctor swab tested, is that correct?
It is entirely possible that a person can be infected for many many years and not infect their partner. I have seen it over and over and I will say that the question of infidelity frequently comes up and I repeatedly say that infidelity is not necessary for this to occur. She is welcome to read what I have to say about this. And if she is still unconvinced, I would be happy to do a video conference with both of you.
July 22, 2019 at 4:25 pm #44293
Thank you Terri!
Now that I’m dealing with it, I’m curious:
1. Can I pass my own GHSV2 to other areas of my own body- mouth, eyes, anus, etc?
2. Can I pass it to household members from sharing a hot tub?
3. Can I pass it to household members from sharing the shower, toilet, soap, towels, laundry, etc?
4. Can I catch someone elses HSV1 or HSV2 either genitally or orally?
Thanks a million!
July 29, 2019 at 5:36 am #44590
1. Not to mouth or eyes but anus is part of the area innervated by this virus when you have the infection genitally
3. No, but we recommend, out of probably unreasonable caution, that people use their own towel rather than sharing a towel immediately after use.
4. That is extremely unlikely – maybe a 1 in 50,000 chance?
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