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Hello,
I wrote about 3 yrs ago because I was worried that somehow I indirectly could have infected my daughter over the years with baths, diaper changes, itching bug bites that may have actually been a lesion but didnt know it, accidentally forgetting to wash my hands etc….the what if’s can go on and on…..I read over and over that she could only possibly get this if there was some form of sexual contact….obviously with out a doubt that has not occured….she was prone to diaper rashes, she also was born with a closed hymen that was repaired when she was 12….when she was about 3 she had a wierd liitle cut out her outer labia….it lasted a day with no typical cluster or scab….
Anyway for the most part I have not given it alot of thought through the years until these last couple…she is now just married and was a virgin…now my pariona has transferred over to the thought that what if my daughter was infected and now has passed it onto her husband…he too was a virgin until thier marriage….I have become absolutely paranoid that this virus is crossing over to other people because I somehow have not taken the proper precautions with my daughter….she has been married for less then 3 months and I cannot relax….for example her husband got a low grade fever the other day, it lasted about a day, then a couple of days later he had a headache, that went away then he said his neck was sore and now the only symptom he has is diarrhea….the fever is gone etc…he just generally feels unwell this week…he normally is a healthy person….he doesn’t have a cold it appears…anyway all week I have worried that these “flu-like” symptoms is him having an initial outbreak of herpes….of course I am not aware if he has any other obvious herpes symptoms….please assure me that a virgin could not have hsv2….also how long does the flu like sypmtons last before a primary out break…..for myself I can live with this….but to pass it on is just terrible…..thanks -
A virgin does not have HSV 2 unless they acquired it at birth or they had very intimate contact that didn’t include intercourse but did include lots of genital to genital rubbing. and if your daughter had contracted herpes at birth, she would have been sick sick sick normally speaking.
You did not infect your daughter and thus she did not infect her new husband. I’m not sure how to help you get past this but you do need to. Genital herpes is simply not transmitted from parents to children. It’s just the truth. I’m so sorry this has bothered you all this time.Terri
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I do say not to share towels but we know of no cases of transmission via towels. It’s just that towels can stay wet and warm and if someone with an outbreak dried their genitals with an outbreak and then another person came along and dried their genitals, there is a very low possibility that the virus could be transmitted. Your scenario at the pool does not fit this scenario at all.
Terri
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That’s right. It needs human living cells to survive. The virus might live on a towel for some minutes but living and being intact enough to transmit are totally different things. How likely is it do you think that you dried your genitals with a lesion present and then immediately dried the genitals of your child? That seems extremely unlikely to me.
I know these thoughts have worried you for a very long time and I’m so sad that you’ve had to worry about something that just hasn’t happened, period. Yes, work on correcting these thoughts and consider working with a cognitive behavioral therapist on these thoughts.
This is your final post on this subscription. If you have more questions, feel free to renewTerri
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When you keep posting like you did it moves the questions so it looks newer than it is. That’s what is going on here.
Her symptoms sound like a yeast infection, exactly like a yeast infection.
I’m not sure how else to reassure you that you have not given your daughter herpes.
Your concerns might be moving into the area of obsessive compulsive disorder and I think it would be helpful if you saw a cognitive behavior therapist about these concerns. They are not rational medically and yet I know they are causing you such emotional pain. Please seek helpTerri
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