March 8, 2021 at 9:06 am #73049
I just had a baby and I am concerned about my herpes diagnosis, I have HPV2. I have been on valacyclovir as a suppression therapy for a few years now. I do not break out with sores when I am on this medication. However, I am really scared of passing on herpes to my baby through shedding. The hardest part for me is using the restroom. I am afraid if I touch my pants or shirt after I wipe myself then I have herpes all over it and my baby may be able to catch it through that. How quickly does herpes die when it is on surfaces like cloth, metal, plastic, etc? How contagious is herpes through shedding as well? Should I be worried I will have herpes on my pants or shirt after I use the restroom through my herpes shedding?
Also, sometimes after sex, my husband cleans his genitalia and then touches his face, phone, bedsheets, etc. Is everything he touched now contaminated with herpes where it could be transferable to our baby if he touches the baby without sanitizing these things first? BTW, I am assuming he had herpes as well. He has never been tested or had any breakouts.
March 11, 2021 at 11:09 am #73058
Hello, I have another question. When I wear shorts, sometimes when I pull them down/up (when I go to the restroom) they rub against my leg. Do I need to wash my legs since they now have sections on them? I am afraid my baby will touch the secretions on my leg then put her hand in her mouth and get infected with HSV.
Also, how long does the virus die once it leaves the genitalia area? I mean, if you get the secretions on another part of your body? How long till it can no longer infect another person who accidentally touches the area of my body with secretions on them? I am in the habit of washing my arms and legs because of this…especially after sex. I don’t want my baby to touch an area that may have secretions on them from my husband or myself. Should I not do that anymore?
Last, how fast does soap kill the virus? Immediately?
March 13, 2021 at 4:31 am #73065
Hi, I have more concerns. Sometimes my husband doesn’t wash his hands after he pees. He simply rinses them for a few seconds under water and then dries them with the towel. I am afraid after he uses the restroom he will touch my babies cheek, hands or mouth and then transmit the virus to her. Can he transmit the virus this way to her?
Also, after sex, my husband doesn’t want to wash his hands even after he touched mine or his genitals. This is frustrating!! Can he infect our baby if he touches her with washing his hands (immediately after sex)?
I feel like this has ruined the quality of my life. I hate using the restroom now because I am afraid I will have virus on my hands and I will somehow transfer it to my clothes as I pick up my underwear/pants to zip up. Or my underwear will brush the outside of my pants. I won’t even reuse a pair of pants right after I take them off because the ones I just took off are infected so they need to be washed. I was never like this until I had a baby. It is now taking my so long to do simple things (use the restroom, change clothes) because I am washing my hands so much during the process that I dread doing either of those things now. Sorry, I am going on about this. I am just so worried all the time…
March 17, 2021 at 4:02 pm #73075
Hi, I purchased additional questions for this forum so i don’t take advantage of it. I do have another question, does herpes live in urine? Sometimes when I pee I get a few drops of urine on my pants. Can you transmit herpes to someone else if they touch the urine on my pants before it had a change the dry?
Also, does herpes live in semen? I am assuming once it is dry it is no longer infectious?
April 4, 2021 at 11:35 pm #73185
Any advice you have on this will be appreciated.
April 5, 2021 at 8:03 am #73190Terri WarrenKeymaster
I think you’ve developed an obsessive-compulsive disorder in your post-partum period.
Herpes is NOT transmitted via clothing and will not live on your clothing. It doesn’t live in a drop of urine. You do not need to wash your legs after using the restroom. Indeed, you should FORCE yourself to use the restroom as you always have so this doesn’t get worse. I am not concerned about your husband using the restroom and touching his penis since he has no lesions. You did say he washes after sex, correct? That’s adequate. You are on suppression, which is great, as it reduces both outbreaks and viral shedding. This should provide you significant reassurance as well.
This is something you should discuss with your OB. I am assuming you didn’t have these concerns until now? Hormonal readjustment after giving birth can take a while and cause all sorts of mental and emotional disruptions. There is nothing wrong with you. This is common, but scary, I know.
You should consider, in addition to discussing possible medication, talking to a cognitive behavioral therapist. Very specifically that specialty. This is what they deal with all the time, and research has shown this to be very effective in treating what’s going on with you.
Lastly, I want to reassure you that the things you are concerned about are NOT a risk to your baby. They really aren’t.
April 5, 2021 at 8:52 am #73194
Thanks for your reply. Yes, I did developed this OCD after I had my baby. Since then I have gotten a lot better. I am reminding myself that herpes is not transmitted through clothing, etc. I just freaked out cause I want to always keep my baby safe. I am still working on it though and trying to go back to how I living before I had my baby.
As for my husband, I am sorry, I meant to say that he doesn’t wash his hands after he touches his genitalia after we have sex (sometimes). If he doesn’t wash them and then touches his phone, face, bed sheets, etc then touches the baby. Can my baby be infected with the virus if he does have herpes?
Also, sometimes the inside of my underwear rubs against my leg as I pull it up and down when I wear shorts. Can a child catch herpes from my legs if it may contain the virus from my underwear rubbing against it? Like if my baby puts her mouth on the area of my leg that my underwear rubbed against?
I guess I want to know how long the virus survives on on objects like clothes, metal and other parts of the body besides the genitalia area.. assuming you got secretions on another part of your body (like after sex).
Thanks again for all your help with this.
April 11, 2021 at 3:22 pm #73228Terri WarrenKeymaster
I don’t believe that your husband is a risk to the baby by not washing his hands every time you have sex, no. Nor is it a risk that your underwear touches your leg when pulling them down or when you wear shorts. This is not how herpes is transmitted.
The virus dies quickly after touching surfaces as you described or at least is dead enough that it wouldn’t infect someone else. Remember that it takes a daily substantial amount of virus to infect someone else, not just a little virus that might live for a little while.
April 15, 2021 at 10:28 pm #73288
Thank you so much for your reply. I am more at ease now that I understand more about how the virus is transmitted. I do have a few more situations I need your help with though.
1. Sometimes my husband either scratches his genitalia or puts his hands down his pants (assumes he touches his genitalia). If he does this, doesn’t wash his hands and then touches our babies mouth shortly after, is she at risk for getting the virus?
2. Do I need to wash the bedsheets after my husband and I have sex? Even if we get fluids on it?
3. If we don’t have to wash our sheets after sex, how quickly can we have our baby in our bed? Assuming she will be on the same area after we had sex.
4. Do you know how contagious the virus is if you are shedding only? Is it less then when you have an outbreak?
5. Do asymptotic people shed less?
6. Is it true the longer you have had the virus, the less you shed? I have had mine for around 15 years.
The biggest thing for me is I am scared to have sex with my husband because I am afraid I will get fluids on other parts of my body during it and the baby will contract the virus if she puts her mouth directly on the area after we have sex.
Thanks again for your help with this, I really appreciate it.
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