discordant transmission risks

[overthinker42]

hello i am a 42 year old black male diagnosed with hsv2 roughly 15 years by an antibody test since then i have had maybe 5 what I think are recurrences I am
now engaged to someone who I have been intimate with for about 5 years and on daily antivirals we do not use condoms i monitor my body but as my name suggests I tend to worry and suffer from anxiety and depression so lately (2-3) months I have become obsessed with transmitting to her although she has no symptoms and has been tested So my question is/are:

After roughly 20 years being infected and on daily meds with practically no outbreaks how likely am I to transmit and is there any kind word or statistic to ease my mind?

Physically I know this virus is minimal but mentally and emotionally I have bad days that are starting to impact my relationship because with the internet I spend hours reading and researching and wondering

thanks in advance

[Terri Warren]

Transmission in your situation is highly unlikely – long duration since infection, minimal outbreaks, on suppression.

I am assuming she knows about your herpes? She made a grown up decision to take a minimal risk?
Also, there are some false positive results on the antibody tests – are you sure what you had were outbreaks?

Terri

[overthinker42]

Hi Terri,

thank you for your response yes she does but as i said i do suffer with anxiety and depression and im not quite sure why after all these years my mind is so fixed on this..we are engaged and looking to marry and it is a personal issue for me..so your message helps more than you can know

[Terri Warren]

I’m so glad.

Terri

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