Does this sound Like HSV 2? Statistically impossible?

[Stressed Guy]

Hi Terri.
I am so depressed and full of anxiety that I can’t function properly.

I am 29 and came out of a 9 year relationship in October 2017. We were both virgins when we met each other and neither of us cheated on the other.

On December 28th I was dating another woman and there was a sexual encounter (My first since breaking up.) Because I was still thinking about my ex we did not have sex.

I want to explain what happened because I can’t make sense of the symptoms I am getting.
Both her and my clothes were off, but we both had underwear on the whole time. She was wearing transparent skimpy lacy panties, I was wearing boxer breifs. I lay on top of her for a while, at this point our genitals were touching through our underwear. She was very wet and a small patch of vaginal fluid had soaked through my underwear. I did not get a condom, because I was not ready for sex as I was still thinking of my ex. Instead, I lay next to her and fingered her under her panties. (I had a tiny wound on my finger from a lighter burn from a week earlier – it was scabbed over)

She then put her hand down my underpants but I refused as I was a bit upset. I then lay on top of her kissing where our genitals may have been in contact briefly (again through our underwear)

Before I left, I readjusted my uncomfortable penis with my hand before putting clothes on. (might have been the one I touched her with?) – washed my hands and went home.

At home 1 hour later I noticed the wet patch on underpants where vaginal fluid had soaked through. I know this was vag fluid because I was not aroused the whole time and it dried brittle. I slept in these underpants.

A few days later I had an intense tingling at tip of penis and the head became slightly red. No sores or other symptoms. 2 weeks ago I had the same symptoms but this time there was a red-spotted rash in foreskin which was gone in 2 days. No bursting or scabbing.

Im too scared to be tested for HSV. Is it possible? I’m an unlucky person.

[Stressed Guy]

I have been struggling with an ongoing UTI for 5 months. 2 weeks ago I saw a terrible Urologist who charged me $450 for a consultation that lasted less than 5 minutes and who had no care in the world for my feelings or my naked privacy in front of the nurses. This was for the UTI but it coincided with the second episode (a day before the rash appeared). He said it could be a lot of things including herpes I asked to be tested and he said he didn’t have the facilities to do that at that hospital??! I have not had the courage to ask for another screening since.

During the past 5 months I have been on three courses of antibiotics (the most recent course ended 3 weeks ago), One for a cold, fever and 2 for the UTI. I read somewhere that too much antibiotic exposure can lead to a fungal infection. Is this more likely? I am looking for any reason for it to be something else. I am a foreigner and I am struggling with the US health care system.
I still have a mild tingling, burning at the very tip of my penis. It has been 2 weeks.

If you need the symptoms
First episode. Red patches on penis head preceded by intense tingling – no break in skin, no rash or spot) gone within a week and a half. No pain.
Second episode: started 2 weeks ago. tingling at end of penis around red area. No break in skin. Rash of separated red dots on foreskin below head of penis not painful at all just uncomfortable. No bursting or scabbing – just disappeared in 2 days. Still have slight tingling at end of urethra. No visible lesions inside end of urethra the whole time.

I have told the absolute truth.
I am too emotionally fragile right now to get a false positive result from a blood test. I think I would kill myself if I got a real positive from this encounter.
What are my chances of acquiring GHSV from this encounter?
What should my next step be to get to the bottom of these symptoms, what is the most affordable way?
Is there really true safe sex practice in the modern world?

[Terri Warren]

I think the risk of acquiring herpes in this situation is about as close to zero as one can get! Underwear on both of you really offers HUGE protection. You ask how to figure out your symptoms. Other than continuing to see clinicians to sort out individual symptoms, I really don’t know what to suggest. EVen you wanted to test for herpes, I would discourage it in this situation, and I am usually really open to herpes antibody testing to clear up situations. You just don’t have the right risk factors to warrant testing.

Terri

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