February 19, 2021 at 3:39 pm #72860Anxious5678Participant
Hi there – thank you for all of the work you do.
I’m not sure if what I’m experiencing is a first herpetic episode or if I’m just paranoid. Any guidance or help would be appreciated.
I had unprotected oral sex with a friend a week ago. We are not exclusive, and I know they are seeing other people. They recently had STI testing, and said they only once had a cold sore like 10 years ago. Both of us have vaginas (I am female, they are transmasculine). They gave me long bouts of oral sex (5-10 mins at a time), but I never reciprocated. We also used a strap on and kissed throughout. Genital on genital contact was nil. This was a multi-hour sexual encounter. The sex was a bit rough so I was sore and honestly may have had little cuts on my vagina (it stung toward the end)
Starting yesterday (6 days post) the glands in my neck are super swollen, my throat is red/sore, I have some fatigue and my appetite has decreased. No lesions have appeared on my face. At the same time I’ve just had tingling on my vagina/anus. Not sure if it’s just bc I’m paranoid and hyperaware. Everything otherwise feels normal.
I had a test on the sore throat and it’s not strep. Waiting on other tests to come back, but Dr. said they don’t test for herpes.
Is it possible to get herpes orally and genitally at the same time? (I’ve only ever had canker sores, not cold sores)
What are the odds of transmission considering the sex act?
If not herpes, what else could cause these symptoms? Ie the swollen lymph nodes etc.
How long does it take for blisters to form once tingling has started / how would one define ‘tingling’?
February 21, 2021 at 11:02 am #72876Terri WarrenKeymaster
It is possible to get HSV 1 infection both genitally and orally at the same time, yes, though if you did not give oral sex to this partner, then your oral infection would have been from kissing. If you were truly negative for HSV 1 prior to this encounter, statistically one would expect lesions somewhere.
Most sore throats are viral (not herpes), not bacterial so no huge surprise that the swab test was negative for strep.
We don’t have statistics on how likely it is to acquire HSV from receiving oral sex, I’m afraid.
Normally, if blisters are going to form, they would form within a couple o days of the tingling with a new infection.
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