February 15, 2021 at 6:00 pm #72773lucy321hParticipant
In November 2019 my partner at the time performed oral sex and didn’t tell me that he had a cold sore developing. A few days later I had sores on both my pelvic area and one under my nose. I went to the doctor for a swab test who confirmed I’d been infected with HSV-1 both orally and genitally.
Since the initial outbreak I haven’t had any genital or oral outbreaks since. I also never transmitted it genitally to my partner and we were together for another year after my first outbreak. I’ve now recently broken up with my partner and am seeing someone new and am a bit confused about the risk of transmission through sex.
I am happy to disclose to the new partner that I have had a cold sore before, and explain to him the risk of transmitting it genitally through oral sex. But I have anxiety about having to disclose to him that I also once had a genital outbreak. What is the risk of genital to genital transmission? I don’t know whether he already has HSV-1 but assuming he doesn’t and that we also use a condom, is there any risk of me transmitting it to him this way given I also haven’t had an outbreak since 2019? (I’m female)
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February 15, 2021 at 7:45 pm #72777Terri WarrenKeymaster
I never say never, but the likelihood that you would transmit your HSV 1 infection to your partner via oral sex is very low indeed. And if he uses a condom, it’s even lower. And if you take antiviral medication daily, it’s so close to zero, it’s almost unheard of. If you’ve been infected for two years and have not had any recurrences, you are likely shedding virus on about 4 days out of the entire year. so you can see that the odds are excellent that you would not transmit.
February 18, 2021 at 3:08 pm #72839lucy321hParticipant
I’d like to know though the risk of genital to genital transmission? If I am not on antivirals. Does the shedding of 4 days a year apply to the oral or genital infection?
I plan on disclosing to him that I have the cold sore virus but am embarassed to say that I also have it on my genitals. I am scared that we will have intercourse (without oral sex) and I could transmit it to him genitally. In which case I feel like id have to disclose that I have a genital infection too. I have a lot of anxiety about this happening so would love to know the actual risk involved
February 19, 2021 at 2:48 pm #72853Terri WarrenKeymaster
The four days a year is genital HSV 1 shedding after 2years. Oral shedding is more frequent. If your partner uses condoms, this greatly reduces the risk of transmission. And you taking daily antiviral medication also reduces the chances of transmission.
We don’t have the transmission data on HSV 1 that you seek, I am afraid.
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