November 27, 2014 at 4:45 am #2028
Entered dating scene recently after many years – I knew nothing about how prevalent Herpes was in America (I’m originally from England) – 1st relationship was with a date who had a cold sore, we parted amicably after 6 weeks, we did have sex a number of times – 4 weeks later I had a second date. I had no symptoms from the first date. After 2 weeks dating the second date we had fairly enthusiastic sex – then after a week and after sex – I awake the morning after with severe vertigo, which I’ve never had before – a few days later into Emergency and CT scan and the usual drugs (still on them) my doctor gave me steroids (Doctors amuse me) at some time – I developed a rash on the tip of my penis – one had to look closely to identify it – no pain – no irritation but it’s a rash. I insisted (not my doctor) on a blood test as I thought the Vertigo (still have that also but less) was viral – the test came back positive for HSV-1 – won’t go into who gave what to whom – it’s done. My 2nd date has low nucleoids and therefore low immune system and she went down a week after me – very severe – ulcers and a similar rash below the waste but no facial sore – but mouth ulcers, which I had also a week before the vertigo – she was declared positive for HSV-1 today. I’m 4 days into the 7 taking Valacyclovir and Acyclovir for the rash – my date (probably permanent) is on Valtrex – the rash is clearing (both doctors diagnosed the rash as non-herpes – she had two doctors – one is a viral expert), we both have no facial sores. I have no other symptoms except for the dizziness – maybe a little temperature when I work out.
And So my questions:
We both have HSV-1:
1. Is vertigo and a rash common below the waist with HSV-1?
2. If we stay together do we cycle this damn thing – meaning if I’m OK and she’s not and we have sex or a coffee – can our immune systems be set back to the starting gun and have to fight the infection again from the beginning – or do we share the same viral love affair? Could my antibodies migrate to help her perhaps?
3. Can we do all the things that got us into this mess – do I have to wear a condom – maybe it would be best if you suggest what we can’t do?
I have to be careful because of her low immune system.
This is new to me and her – she’s distraught, but that’s to be expected. I’m curious, but shouldn’t have followed the rabbit I guess.
Thanks for your time
November 28, 2014 at 4:26 pm #2034
So I need a little clarification. You say that your second date was declared HSV 1 positive – was that from a swab test or from a blood antibody test?
Your rash sounds nothing like how herpes presents, actually, so my suspicion is that your HSV 1 infection is not newly acquired from the first date.
Vertigo is not a symptom of herpes, no. When you describe a rash below the waist, what kind of rash and where?
If you are both HSV 1 positive, then no, you won’t pass it back and forth, condoms will not be necessary. Each of your immune systems will handle this in it’s own way. Your antibody will not help her, no, she will have her own.
You can all the things that got you into this mess, yes.
If you can help me with the question about how she was diagnosed, that would be great!
December 2, 2014 at 2:49 am #2128
I think you and my girlfriends specialist are right about the rash – it’s not Herpes – she was given Triamicinolone Acetonide Cream for a dermatological issue and cleared up in a week – however her rocket scientist of a doctor wouldn’t speak to, or see her for two weeks to discuss her blood test and then oops panic when he finally condoned he found out about her immune system. I’ve been using Acyclovir prescribed (without seeing me) by my doctor and after 10 days not a lot of change. The rash is not raised – just red specks and overall redness. I’m going to try her treatment.
My first date lasted about 8 weeks and I last slept with her 6 weeks before sleeping with my current girlfriend – I was fine until a week after we had sex – I also now agree that the Vertigo was probably post concussion from walking into a glass door. (My doctor just laughs), he gave me steroids and sent me on my way – until I insisted on a blood test at $600.
I contacted the first date and she said she had cold sores all her life but wouldn’t get a blood test when I suggested it – but she thinks she ‘probably’ gave it to me (my first American date!). My current girlfriend (Latin) with the low antinuclear antibodies (1/2500) went down severely after i went into Emergency (she took me), she’s still ill after 8 weeks.
BTW neither of us have a cold sore – but I had an ulcer on my gum and she had several after falling ill.
At this point I don’t think I have any questions except an opinion – Doctors are academics, but lack common sense – they don’t listen and they jump to conclusions – chucking the same old drugs at one – I personally know of incompetence in a number of cancer case – but this isn’t the place.
DRACO looks promising – I’ve followed this since 2011, but no way will Ryder get funding – not with all the lovely money to be made once the 80% get an outbreak. What a business? Sign me up!
Thanks for the answers – sincerely – you really are a great help – but doctors no – “Physician Heal Thyself,” and thats exactly what I’m going to do.
December 2, 2014 at 6:17 am #2135
OK. Was there a question in there somewhere? I don’t want to miss something.
December 2, 2014 at 2:06 pm #2138
I don’t think I have a question – you answered the questions I had at the beginning – now it’s just keeping myself healthy to avoid another outbreak – if I had one at all – I’m still not sure but we both have checked positive and had regular blood tests every year – hers was April 2014.
It’s a jungle out there – particularly dating in the US – my first date gave me herpes – Dating sites should require a deflation of past infections like dentists.That would knock their business down by 50% I’m guessing.
Keep up the good work – you’re the only sanity on the web on this subject.
December 2, 2014 at 3:22 pm #2140
OK, well, in summary, both you and your partner have HSV 1 as well as 56% of the US population between 14-49. There is nothing that you both need to do in terms of that infection since you are both infected. If either of you have an outbreak, you can treat it with oral antiviral medicine if you wish to shorten the duration of the outbreak. Since you don’t know if your infection is really oral or genital, you can keep an eye out in both locations for symptoms.
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