February 1, 2016 at 9:36 am #11718glassParticipant
In 1993 my boyfriend told me he had been diagnosed with Genital Herpes, which had appeared on the base of his penis. I had cold sores for years before and I assumed I had given him HSV1 on his genitals from me giving oral. We broke up with no further sex of any kind. I was never tested.
I started dating another man and married. Got pregnant in 1996 and at first meeting with doctor filled out the question “Have you ever been exposed to HSV?” as “yes”. When asked gave the above facts to my doctor, and that I have never had any outbreaks. Don’t remember from there if I was tested for HSV1&2, but I know was not given any sort of viral suppression medicine and was never discussed again by my doctor. I had this child and then 4 others – and I never talked to doctors about HSV for the 2-5th child. All children were/are fine, no issues with the 5 vaginal deliveries.
I had an affair about two years ago, and my husband recently found out and insisted we both get STD tested. We both tested at Labcorp (HSV1&2 IGG test) and my score for HSV1 (scale = <.9 negative, >3.5 positive) was 60 (not surprised due to lifelong cold sores on mouth) and HSV2 (same scoring) was 9.5. I don’t think I have ever had any genital symptoms of HSV2. My husband’s tests were both negative and we have had a lot of sex since my affair. Don’t understand what is going on.
1. in 1996 what would be the normal Dr protocol if I answered “yes” to exposed to HSV? Should I be able to get medical records that show a blood test, or would the doctor just have not bothered to test me? That just does not seem likely given Dr’s try to avoid liability risks. But in 1996 was it different protocol?
2. how likely is it that I have had HSV2 and never infected my husband (thru lot of sex).
3. because I have HSV1 for so long, that suppressing how HSV2 contagious I am to my husband?
4. fear that affair partner gave me HSV2, husband wants 100% protection. advice?
February 3, 2016 at 5:36 am #11740Terri WarrenKeymaster
It would probably be worth a try to get the records and see if any testing was actually done but I’m guessing that it was not.
I have seen many couples who have been having sex for 20 years and did not transmit – both with males and females being infected with an uninfected partner, so yes, it certainly happens. People think a single exposure is a huge risk but actually, the transmission rates are not any where near as high as one might think.
People who have HSV 1 prior to acquiring HSV 2 do not shed less once they are infected BUT they are less likely to have symptoms with their first infection with HSV 2. I think this is likely your situation.
I think whether you use protection or not at this point seems to me to be kind of up to him. He’s a bit in the driver’s seat here. Have you had the affair person tested? If he is negative for HSV 2, that would, it seems to me, be a huge deal here. In addition, it would be good for that person to know that you tested positive for HSV 2 and could have either infected you or been infected by you. You taking daily therapy would be more effective than condoms alone or even just condoms. Your husband might also tire of condoms in the long run.
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