August 6, 2019 at 8:04 am #44873
Hi. Ten days ago I had a date with a man (same sex date) – we kissed a lot during the date and at the end he gave me unprotected oral sex for no more than 20 seconds, probably more like 10 seconds. At that point I pushed him away because I had been focusing on risk of HIV but then recalled about HSV. Starting less than 24 hours later I started feeling what I might call burning in my urethra and some burning when I urinate. The flow seems less than usual but not sure. I don’t have any sores or other symptoms. This man got tested and was told he has oral hsv. I think he said his doctor told him it was from a long time ago. Not sure how he would know this. He did not have cold sores and said he does not recall ever having one. I went to the doctor and got swabbed (thought bumps could be sores) and negative and urinalysis negative. It doesn’t hurt when I first wake up but starts later. Could it just be my anxiety? Can I ever know for sure what is going on with me? I am so sorry I was so uninformed about unprotected oral. But again, it was only 10 seconds or so, my symptoms started before what I understand the incubation period is and it’s just some burning inside my penis. Help me understand please. thanks
August 12, 2019 at 5:43 am #45050
If I had to take an educated guess, I would guess that this is about anxiety, not about disease.
Let me ask – have you ever had a cold sore on your lip or in your nose and/or have you been tested for HSV in the past?
10 second of oral sex is incredibly unlikely to transmit anything!
And herpes symptoms normally start no sooner than 2 days from exposure/infection. And having herpes only in the urethra with no external lesions would also be very unusual indeed. The pain with herpes urethritis is remarkable, no mild. acidic urine passing over open sores is pretty miserable. And if you had herpes lesions in the urethra, it is likely you would be dumping white cells into your urine, which would make your urine test abnormal.
All in all, I doubt that your symptoms are related to herpes or any other STI
August 15, 2019 at 6:58 am #46244
Thanks sincerely, Terri. I hang on your every word of reassurance. I have been diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and OCD so this makes sense. When I read something concerning online the burning instantly goes through the roof so this is further evidence that my anxiety is causing some of my symptoms.
In answer to your question, I am not aware of ever having a cold sore and I have not been tested. But I am 59 years old so the chances are pretty good I have been exposed to oral hsv, aren’t they? I understand this would inoculate me from genital infection of HSV 1. Also, I understand that it is more likely than not that the guy I was with was not shedding since he reports no cold sores and I believe I’ve seen you write that shedding occurs about 26% of the time in someone with 6 outbreaks per year. (I guess the other option is I was infected orally but show no symptoms).
That said, it’s been nearly three weeks from my 10 to 20 seconds of unprotected oral sex and I still feel some mild stinging/burning when I urinate and just in general. And I have some itching – no redness or rash and I have had itching for years but in this context I thought I’d mention it. And no legions. I have two follow up questions.
You wrote that pain during urination caused by HSV would result from legions in the urethra which would cause significant pain, not mild pain. So would it be correct to say that mildly painful urination would not be one of the mild symptoms that I read that some people get that they may mistake for something else? It’s generally urine over legions which really hurts or it’s not HSV causing that issue.
Secondly, could stinging/burning inside my penis when I urinate and otherwise be caused by bacteria that I could have picked up during the brief episode of unprotected oral sex? If so, would it be possible that this would not have been picked up on the urinalysis I had three days after the incident even though I already felt some burning? I was very
August 15, 2019 at 8:13 am #46248
emotional when I was at the doctors’ last time so I don’t want to seem irrational by showing up at the doctor’s office needlessly but I also don’t want to leave something untreated that warrants treatment.
I appreciate any thoughts you have about any of this. I fully appreciate the significant challenges others are going through on this board but I can’t stop thinking about this and it is making me very unhappy.
Thanks again Terri
August 21, 2019 at 11:52 am #46520
You could have picked up a bacteria from the other person’s mouth while receiving oral sex, yes, but that mostly resolves itself. And it is completely possible that the bacteria would not have been picked up on the UA, yes. And yes, herpes lesions in the urethra would not cause mild pain but more pain than that.
I don’t feel that what you are describing presents a need to be seen but you could go if you are really concerned. I am assuming that testing has been done for other STI’s?
We can really freak ourselves out over an encounter that scares us. I hope you can move past this with minimal discomfort and it is likely that ever day, the discomfort will be less and less.
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