Mutual masturbation and potentially light touching

[tomatosoup13]

Hi! I’m writing because three days ago I made the stupid mistake of hooking up with my ex girlfriend.

She recently had a boyfriend from the poor part of town (the projects) who had many partners, she told me she doesn’t know if she has anything, and that she just recently got tested. She also states that she had no sores but I don’t really trust/believe her.

On april 28 at 3am she came into my house, things got a little heated, which lead to me masturbating her with both of my hands, and lightly rubbing my penis on her lower back/butt/near the rectum. I don’t remember of any touching with the vagina, but I could be wrong ( I was really intoxicated. )

My issue is that I have a girlfriend, and I love her so much that any chance of me giving her an STD would kill me, as I already gave her HSV1 genitally (Through oral sex) and gave her HPV.

1) what are the chances of me contracting HSV2? I already have HSV1. I know mutual masturbation doesn’t count as a risk.

Here’s exactly what happened

1) She comes over
2) I pull her pants down and start fingering her from behind, I believe that I rubbed the tip of my penis somewhere, but I don’t remember where. It wasn’t for anything longer than maybe 5 seconds.
3) I continue fingering her.
4) Using the same hand that I had fingered her with, I masturbated on her.

Assuming that I had rubbed against her vagina for those 5 seconds, should I be worried? and what if I didn’t? What are the STDS That I can get from this?

Also, how effective are condoms to prevent HSV 2 from male to female? I only ask because my girlfriends birthday comes up this week and I don’t see a way out of having sex with my girlfriend.

Do you think it’s safe for me to continue my previous sexual practices? I do blow things out of proportion. I feel terrible about it since I don’t wanna risk giving my gf ANOTHER std. ( I was her first partner)

Should I move on from this? Is it worth not having sex and getting STD tested in 3 months? I need help badly.

[tomatosoup13]

Also, I currently have a long standing HSV1 infection orally. Would that prevent me from getting any hsv2 symptoms?

(I also had a biopsy in February on my penis which left a scar, would that increase the chance of me getting infected with HSV2?)

The girl (who I am worried is a risk) also last had sex with her ex boyfriend on April 12, 2019. This would mean it’s a new infection. They only dated for about two weeks. I know new infections are so much more contagious than a regular one, so I just wanted to add that so you could give me some advice as to what I should do.. thank you so much for everything you’ve done for the STD community.

[Terri Warren]

I do not consider the contact that you describe to be a risk for acquiring HSV 2. HSV 1 offers no protection against getting HSV 2. A scar would not increase your risk of getting HSV 2. Do you know if she and her partner used condoms or not?

Terri

[tomatosoup13]

They didn’t use condoms six times apparently. They had unprotected anal and vaginal sex.

Let me follow up with some really quick questions

1) I was wondering if I could have one more question, because I stupidly used the first question instead of being a follow up as an addition, can I please have another question?

2) Why do you think it’s not a risk? Like at all? Even if I rubbed my penis against her? (Which I honsetly dont remember if i did or not)

3) I’ve recently gotten lower back pain (like around my anus) radiating down to my left knee, and on the left part of my foreskin. Does this sound like herpetic symptoms? when I googled them it was called “prodome” but I don’t know if it’s applicable here or if it’s all imagined. When I actually had the encounter I was suffering from a cold, and I’m still suffering from it so I don’t if I even got the flu like symptoms

4)Do you recommend I do STD testing considering my symptoms?

5) Since this might be my last question, ( I recently lost my job because the company shut down and I have no money to ask anything else) Do you recommend I have regular sex wtih my partner? even with the symptoms im going through?

6) What are the chances I’ll give it to my girlfriend if I have it? OR am I just imagining things? Should I look out for herpes sores?

7) How likely is it that instead of getting sores on my penis, they end up on my rectum instead? (Making them non visible for me)

8)Am I overreacting?

9) I heard having HSV1 makes it so that hsv2 dosent show any physical symptoms, is this true?

10) not sure if youre allowed to answer this, but can I continue to have sex with my girlfriend without having fear of giving her hsv2? I got tested two months ago and I was fully negative. (Like my last partner was a year ago so there is no way unless the IGG read it wrong)

Thank you for your help

[tomatosoup13]

Should I also be concerned of any other STDS? Do these symptoms sound like STDS to you?

Or should I just put this chapter behind me and continue forwards and not get tested?

Thank you for your help

[tomatosoup13]

Also the scar is really new, like, two months old.

[tomatosoup13]

I don’t have any other symptoms though, no sores that I can see, my penis is definitely a sore though and so is the area around what is described as the area between my anus and my penis

[tomatosoup13]

Even if I rubbed against her genitals for five to ten seconds? That wouldn’t be enough time?

[Terri Warren]

1) I was wondering if I could have one more question, because I stupidly used the first question instead of being a follow up as an addition, can I please have another question?

Yes, I see you have posted several!

2) Why do you think it’s not a risk? Like at all? Even if I rubbed my penis against her? (Which I honsetly dont remember if i did or not)

That kind of contact is far less likely as there was no internal penetration

3) I’ve recently gotten lower back pain (like around my anus) radiating down to my left knee, and on the left part of my foreskin. Does this sound like herpetic symptoms? when I googled them it was called “prodome” but I don’t know if it’s applicable here or if it’s all imagined. When I actually had the encounter I was suffering from a cold, and I’m still suffering from it so I don’t if I even got the flu like symptoms

No it does not sound like herpes to me.

4)Do you recommend I do STD testing considering my symptoms?

I do not, unless you have other general concerns about STD’s

5) Since this might be my last question, ( I recently lost my job because the company shut down and I have no money to ask anything else) Do you recommend I have regular sex wtih my partner? even with the symptoms im going through?

I think it’s fine to have sex with your regular partner. But if you continue to worry about this, you could go to a Planned Parenthood in your area for testing as they see people on a sliding scale for STD testing

6) What are the chances I’ll give it to my girlfriend if I have it? OR am I just imagining things? Should I look out for herpes sores?

I think you are exaggerating the symptoms in your mind to seem like herpes. If you have herpes, you could certainly give it to your partner, yes

7) How likely is it that instead of getting sores on my penis, they end up on my rectum instead? (Making them non visible for me)

I still think you would feel sores if they were in your rectum and new herpes show up in the place exposed (your penis)

8)Am I overreacting?

Yes, I believe you are

9) I heard having HSV1 makes it so that hsv2 dosent show any physical symptoms, is this true?

Yes, having HSV 1 first makes the acquisition of HSV 2 likely to be less symptomatic

10) not sure if youre allowed to answer this, but can I continue to have sex with my girlfriend without having fear of giving her hsv2? I got tested two months ago and I was fully negative. (Like my last partner was a year ago so there is no way unless the IGG read it wrong)

Allowed? I make that decision. And I would say it is extremely unlikely that you acquired HSV 2 in this situation. The IgG test misses 8% of HSV 2.

Terri

[tomatosoup13]

Do you really think so? I read online that prodome is when you feel things like pain on your genitals and pain down on your rectum and down your leg (ACcording to webmd) [then again you’re kind of the top shit around the herpes community if you dont mind my language]

The past few days I’ve been having soreness on my penis shaft, do you think it’s all mental?

Thank you so much for answering all my questions

So I can feel better

1) The soreness on my penis shaft (it’s actually like a little on my pneis head and my shaft) that radiates down to my knee and my lower rectum is not a problem in terms of potential STDS?

2) My encounter was really low risk for anything so it’s not even worth testing right? I can continue to have regular sex?

Thank you for everything, you, dr handsfield, and dr hook are kind of my idols. If you’re ever in new york I’d love to get some books signed by you (If you ever do a book signing or a fan meet, not sure if doctors have other fans or if it’s just me being crazy)

[tomatosoup13]

That’s my last set of questions, I just wanna thank you very much for everything that you’ve done to help. The penis soreness REALLY scared me and sent me into a panic

Should I look out for symptoms?

[tomatosoup13]

Okay I’m so sorry to bother you Mrs Warren but my symptoms are now completely gone.

Final question just because I don’t have money to even go to a doctor (medicare took away my insurance)

The symptoms are gone,was this prodome? The pain on the shaft, anus, and running down my legs. Should I be concerned?

[Terri Warren]

I don’t believe this is prodrome, no. I don’t know anything about your sexual history so I don’t know if you might have had herpes previously, but this experience is highly unlikely to be one that puts you at risk of acquiring herpes, even if she has it, which you don’t know.

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Terri

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