Mutual Masturbation Genital Herpes

[Worried7676]

Hi Terri,

Thanks in advance for your help.

I am worried that I have herpes. I have only had 1 sexual partner in my life which is my wife, she has also never had any sexual partners.

A few years ago I stupidly visited a strip club on a few occasions with mates.

I have been experiencing severe itching on the left side of my penis shaft (where it sort of meets the body) and I can’t pinpoint when this started for the first time. It seems to come and go. I could experience severe itching for a week and then it subside. I have noticed the feeling of bumps and 1 more noticeable bump that I noticed has scabbed over.

The only thing I did in the strip club that makes me feel I could have caught herpes was touch a vagina (I masturbated her vagina) than masturbated myself with the same hand straight after.

I’m worried sick this has given me genital herpes and I have passed it to my wife.

I had sex with my wife a couple of months back and I remember her becoming really itchy 2 days after with discharge.

[Terri Warren]

I think the experience that you had at the strip club presents close to no risk whatsoever of getting herpes. I am concerned that you had a bump that scabbed over. Did anyone professional take a look at that? Do either you or your wife experience cold sores?

Terri

[Worried7676]

I haven’t had anyone look at it and to my knowledge we’ve both never had cold sores.

I’m just growing really concerned about it as we are due baby in a month.

I think my only option is to have a blood test done but I’m not sure what test the NHS would use as I am in the UK.

In terms of risks from my encounter I have seen yourself and other experts agree that it can’t be transferred by genital to hand to genital but it is possible by sharing sex toys. I have also seen that you can spread it from 1 place of your body to another if you haven’t built up enough immunity on other sites. I’m confused as to what makes the difference between that and hand to genital back and forth.

[Terri Warren]

Hands are different because much virus is lost with hands between contacts. I can’t say there is 100% no possibility, but I think none of the herpes experts I know of think this is a risk. I’ve never diagnosed anyone with herpes who has only had finger or hand contact. Never. Everyone has either had intercourse or oral contact.

Terri

[Worried7676]

Thanks Terri, that does make sense.

Can fungal infections come and go without treatment? As I do often suffer from athletes foot so not sure if it is related.

The itch does come and go and feels intense when it is present. I would say I experience aggressive itchiness twice a month which I’m worried it comes and goes with the bumps. Although the larger bump appears in the exact place everytime and I am unsure whether it disappears totally.

Would you say testing is necessary if this was my only contact?

I’m just helplessly worried as we are due a baby and I don’t want my wife to pass anything on.

[Terri Warren]

Fungal infections can come and go without treatment.
The fact that you are due to have a baby changes my level of concern about the bump.
If you have a bump again, I would recommend that you have it swab tested.
And perhaps you should have an antibody test as well. I don’t believe there is a risk here but as I’ve said all along, the scabbing concerns me. When is the baby due?

Terri

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