Mutual Masturbation Risks – Need Assurance

[74redvette@gmail.com]

Hello Terri,

I participated in mutual masturbation with two other men yesterday at an Adult Bookstore. Two of us wore condoms and masturbated each other and ourselves and touched each others testicles. The third man joined and received oral sex from the man I was mutually masturbating with at the same time. I know I touched both of their scrotum/testicles but had no direct skin to skin contact (just my hands) with either guys genitals. I massaged and scratched the one mans back, lower back and upper buttocks during the time as well. I saw no blisters either guys genitals, but the light was not real good and I would not be anything close to an expert to what I was seeing. I ended the session masturbating (less than 30 seconds) myself and ejaculating with the condom off (neither men touched my bare penis)and left the bookstore washing my hands and took a shower within 30-40 minutes and urinating also.

I was pretty careful to keep my hands on my condom and the other mans condom during the act of masturbation, but am sure touch my scrotum/testicles during the act.

I have read the answers to such questions posted to Dr Hooks,Dr Handsfield and yourself on MedHelp.org and both say there is no to little risk for such mutual masturbation actives when is comes to HIV, Herpes and STD bacterial and testing was not needed because this was “Mutual Masturbation”. You told others to move on and Dr Hooks and Dr Handsfield said unprotected having sex with the Girl Friend and or Wife was OK.

My extremely selfish act has me worried about having sex with my wife and the whole thing has cause me a lot of anxiety.

Sounds like I can move on with no testing and can continue to have unprotected sex with my wife?

I am no sure why I continue to exhibit such behavior and know it has to stop now !!!!!

I would appreciate your thoughts on the matter, the need for HIV & STD testing and continued unprotected sex with my wife.

Thank you

[Terri Warren]

Yes I think you can move on and have sex with your wife. You were very careful about your contact and you do not need testing, in my opinion.
You mention continuing to exhibit these behaviors so this isn’t a one time thing. You have some issues going on about the gender of your preferred sex partners and I think it would be so helpful for you to talk with someone who specializes in these kinds of situations.

You are being very careful and I applaud you for that, but for your own well being, I hope you will talk with an experienced professional about what’s going on here.

Terri

[74redvette@gmail.com]

Terri,

Thank you for your help, I appreciate you taking the time out of your busy day to answer my question and give me assurance about my sex life (yes, only with my wife).

Yes, I need to talk someone and will get that moving in the right direction, thank you for the advice and counsel.

Sex is a funny thing, when opportunities present themselves it sounds like many of make bad decisions and risk more than we should (another words questions like these are asked far to often to professionals like yourself).

Thank you once again.

I hope you enjoy the weekend, you made mine a lot brighter.

[Terri Warren]

Yes sex is a funny thing. When opportunities present themselves and you have an inclination to follow them then making a good decision or at least a safer decision is tougher. My whole career has been focused around helping people with sexually transmitted infections and I am well aware of the fallibility of humans when it comes to sex in particular. I make absolutely no judgments about people’s behavior but I do try to help my patients look at patterns in their lives and try to sort out how to make decisions that are in the best interest of my patients and their families.

Terri

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