November 15, 2020 at 9:46 pm #71795
I have a situation regarding potential exposure of HSV.
Background Info: I am 25 year old male that is divorced. I was in a monogamous relationship for 5 years until it ended. I met my partner during our studies at university and we got married after 3 years of dating. She is the only partner i’ve been sexually active with until the situation which i will explain below. We were each others firsts and both virgins. We always used protection every time. Never had any symptoms of STDs and was check once prior with blood and urine test. Additionally, i am pretty sure that i have never had a cold sore or anyone in my family either.
Situation: I attended a friends party several weeks ago and was intoxicated after drinking alcohol. One of my friends thought it was a good idea to get me a ‘high class’ escort since i have not been with anyone else sexually. As the night progressed, i ended up having protected PIV sex with the escort and also received protected oral. She took the condom off at one point to give a ‘handjob’ (approx 2 mins) then i put another condom on and continued PIV sex. The sex probably lasted around 30 minutes total. I regretted it straight after. The next few days i started getting red spots on my penis glans and under my foreskin. Some were raised but had no itch, no fluid or discharge and there was scattered along the area, no clusters either.
I went to the doctors 7 days post ‘potential’ exposure to have it checked out but by the time they all disappeared. I ended up getting a blood and urine test to check for STDS and after a week of waiting all came back negative. I asked the doc about herpes and he said they test by doing a swab.
I felt relief but the red dots came back (only 1-2) and went away after 1-2 days. I did some research online and found that there are blood test for herpes but they might be inaccurate so i might get a wrong diagnosis..
What are the odds of contracting HSV? I’ve been very anxious and paranoid.
November 25, 2020 at 9:36 am #71858
The experience that you describe is definitely a very low risk for acquiring HSV and your symptoms are not consistent with herpes either. Herpes lesions don’t appear for 1-2 days and disappear. And they are not red dots, they are water blister type lesions. Nothing you told me here concerns me at all.
November 27, 2020 at 8:04 am #71904
Thank you for your reply.
Just adding info to the situation.
We did kiss during the moment (less than a hand full of times), no tongue or anything like that, just few ‘pecks’. Would this be a concern for HSV?
Also its been around 7 weeks now since the situation and just over 6 weeks i went into a specialist sexual health clinic to consult with a doctor. I discussed some issues with her and i ended up getting another blood and urine test for STDS done. All results came back negative again. I mentioned my concerns for HSV to her and she told me not to worry because i did not have any symptoms. She did a thorough physical examination genital area and said everything looks normal. Additionally, she said if i had herpes in the genital area i would know because it is ‘very painful’. She told me not to worry about this anymore and move on with my life. What is your opinion on this? It is rather difficult to pursue a blood test for HSV from the doctors in general without any symptoms. She said the blood tests are ‘inaccurate’.
Moreover, i have had some small cut sized sores on the bottom on my testicles. I’m pretty sure this is due to chafing issue i have but not 100% sure. (had this for months prior). Could this be HSV related? Its a patch of very dry skin that flakes.
I went to my local doctor and he prescribed me hydrocortisone cream to apply. After a week of application the area has improved. However what is your opinion on this? Could it be HSV?
The sores were tiny but there was around 3-4 of them, but they healed within a 2-3 days. I forgot to mention that the itch would be intense so i would scratch in my sleep, which would make it worse but i did not realise until i would wake up.
I noticed that the red dots return a day after masturbation, so i’m assuming the red dots mentioned earlier could’ve been from friction? What are your thoughts? I also get the odd pimple or ingrown hair in my pubic area. I want to move on from this issue.
December 1, 2020 at 12:59 pm #71932
I disagree with your doctor that all herpes is “very painful” If 80% of those infected with HSV 2 don’t know it, how could it be “very painful” for everyone infected?
If cortisone improved your symptoms, this is unlikely to be herpes.
There are some inaccuracies on the blood tests but the herpes western blot is the gold standard and doesn’t make errors.
Herpes lesions generally don’t only last 2-3 days
I think you can likely safely move on from this issue.
December 1, 2020 at 8:24 pm #71945
Thank you for your response Terri.
I discussed issues with the doctor at the sexual health clinic and she said that my situation is a low risk for contracting HSV and you’ve mentioned above on your first reply that it is definitely a low risk. She said high risk is having unprotected sex with multiple partners and sharing needles etc.
However, she still insisted not blood testing for HSV due to her mentioning the inaccuracy. Also my local doctor would not recommend me a blood test either.
I’ve been trying to slowly move on from this issue, I’m just worried I am be asymptomatic? or this all in my head? it’s really taking a mental toll on me. I’ve been seeing this lovely women who i am soon to enter a relationship with but I’m not sure where I should go from here.
Should I try to find a private provider who does HSV igG tests? even though it’s against doctors recommendations? What would your advice be?
Additionally, its been almost 8 weeks now since the situation would this be a good time to do the igG if I can find a provider? or should I wait longer. I would really like to do the Western Blot test as it is the gold standard and accurate but i do not live within the U.S, I live in another country.
Moreover, my biggest concern is doing the igG test (if i can get my hands on it) and showing up positive as I wouldn’t know what to do from there….
Again, my sexual history is 2 partners.. (1 monogamous – 5 years, 1 ‘one night stand’ – escort), sexual intercourse always with a condom.
Mentally, I’ve been taking it one day at a time, slowly moving away from this issue.. as i have many other personal and family problems going on right now. Should i pursue igG testing or leave it?
I just don’t want to enter into a new relationship and potentially cause problems down the road if we decide to take things further.
Thank you very much Terri and kind regards.
December 2, 2020 at 4:45 pm #71962
well, if you can move on without the IgG, I think that would be OK as your sexual history is just not consistent with you being at risk for herpes. Depending upon where you live, we might be able to arrange a western blot if you can’t stop worrying about this.
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