Potentially exposed partners

[Curiositycat]

Hello, I am female and my previous boyfriend was hsv2 positive. During our 6 month relationship, we slept together without protection and were monogamous. He has had it for about five years and has no symptoms. I have had any suspicious abnormalities swabbed and have had multiple blood tests in this time. All have been negative.

A few nights ago I performed oral sex with one female partner and also had intercourse with another male partner. We originally used a condom but it came off during the encounter. We had sex three times and I think that half the time we did not use protection. I am very aware that this was careless.

The next day I began to feel a dampness and got diarrhea and this evening I noticed what looks like three blisters between my buttocks. I have booked an appointment to see the doctor and have them swabbed tomorrow.

My questions are as follows

1. if I am shedding or contagious genitally, am I also contagious orally? I did not think that this was the case but just came across a web page suggesting this. Am terrified that I have herpes and have transmitted it giving oral sex to a female partner, if in fact I do have herpes and did not realize. She did not reciprocate.

2. When I had intercourse with the male partner I assume that I would have been contagious and shedding before I had symptoms. What are the chances of him having caught it from me?

I’m aware that these concerns all rely on me actually having herpes, which I will try to confirm asap. But right now I am terrified that I have harmed people and not sure what to do. I guess I feel very guilty that I was probably exposed to the virus in my past and have since engaged in sexual activity. I kept telling myself that I had been tested and was ok but obviously now that seems wrong.

Thank you Terri.

[Terri Warren]

Sorry, somehow I missed this

1. if I am shedding or contagious genitally, am I also contagious orally? I did not think that this was the case but just came across a web page suggesting this. Am terrified that I have herpes and have transmitted it giving oral sex to a female partner, if in fact I do have herpes and did not realize. She did not reciprocate.

It is very unlikely that you are infected orally – HSV 2 does not like the mouth and rarely inhabits or recurs there that we can determine. Do you know if you have HSV 1 or not?

2. When I had intercourse with the male partner I assume that I would have been contagious and shedding before I had symptoms. What are the chances of him having caught it from me?

That depends upon 1) if you are infected and 2) when you got infected and 3) if he has HSV 2 already and doesnt’ know it or didn’t disclose. People are most contagious in the first 6 months of being infected.

I’m aware that these concerns all rely on me actually having herpes, which I will try to confirm asap. But right now I am terrified that I have harmed people and not sure what to do. I guess I feel very guilty that I was probably exposed to the virus in my past and have since engaged in sexual activity. I kept telling myself that I had been tested and was ok but obviously now that seems wrong. post in the list.

When did you last have sex with your boyfriend that has HSV 2? How long after your last intercourse did you test most recently?

Terri

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