terrified and looking for answers

[AnxeityKing]

Thank you for taking some time to read my post, its unbelievable that this resource exists, especially for those of us that have purchased a one way ticket on the crazy train.

I recently made a poor decision in seeing an escort who performs body slides. My contact included unprotected oral sex and of most concern, the sliding of her vagina over my uncovered penis until ejaculation. There was no penetration. It is also worth mentioning that the contact was fairly “aggressive”. The genital to genital contact probably lasted 15-20 minutes in total. Another factor would be that the oral sex included some “biting”, but no skin was broken. There was also a lot of saliva involved with the oral sex as well.

The contact occurred last Tuesday afternoon (6/23/15) and Wednesday morning (6/24/15) I noticed a slightly red area on left side of the tip of my penis. The red area did not hurt without being rubbed against something like a towel. It should also be noted there were no blisters or apparent sores of any type. I have had no problem urinating nor any fever or body aches. The red spot has since completely resolved itself, and I am working on accepting that the red spot was probably due to either the biting or heavy friction from the body slide itself. No other concerning symptoms to report.

Due to prior poor decisions, I am fairly well versed in the risk of unprotected oral sex (gHSV-1), but this vaginal slide component has caused additional concern. I won’t mention that I feel like my groin and genital region are either tingling or hurting on and off because I’ve been down this road before and I know that the mind will tell us anything we want it too, whether its actually there or not.

Other factors to consider, the female partner is 52 years old and did not have any apparent sores in her vaginal region or mouth (i know this doesn’t account for asymptomatic shedding). However, for the purposes of this inquiry, I think its fairly safe to assume that she is gHSV-2 positive.

Other factors for me, I am HSV 1 and 2 negative, confirmed by IgG testing 4 weeks ago, prior to my encounter. Accordingly, this would be a primary outbreak for me, if it occurs. I had not had any sexual contact between the test 4 weeks ago and the encounter in question. Before my test, it had been approximately 24 weeks since my last sexual experience.

1.) Does the vaginal slide present a high risk of infection for the transmission of HSV?

2.) In your experience, what is the timeframe for a primary outbreak? (I have been examining my genital area for a week straight and can’t find any “developments”)

3.) Do some folks who are HSV 1 and 2 negative skip the primary outbreak?

4.) At what point, after not finding any sign of outbreak, would you think it is safe to assume I have avoiding contracting HSV? (I know I need to go in at 16 weeks for a conclusive result)

Thank you again for your time and consideration, I feel lucky to have you as a resource Terri.

[Terri Warren]

1.) Does the vaginal slide present a high risk of infection for the transmission of HSV?
Yes, I definitely think it does. The main site of shedding virus in women is the labia, which you had plenty of contact with during this encounter, I’m assuming. I’m trying to picture the sliding in my head and it sounds like there was plenty of labial contact, but correct me if I don’t have this right.

2.) In your experience, what is the timeframe for a primary outbreak? (I have been examining my genital area for a week straight and can’t find any “developments”)

2-10 days, with very few exceptions. I would say since you are HSV 1 and 2 negative, that if you acquired HSV 2 through this encounter you would likely have symptoms and since you are very aware, you would likely notice them as well.

3.) Do some folks who are HSV 1 and 2 negative skip the primary outbreak?
Well, yes, some I’m sure, but many just don’t recognize what is happening to them but that’s not likely with you.

4.) At what point, after not finding any sign of outbreak, would you think it is safe to assume I have avoiding contracting HSV? (I know I need to go in at 16 weeks for a conclusive result)

I think you’ve answered your own question – 16 weeks. You can certainly test before that and receive some good degree of reassurance at 6 weeks, but a final test at 16 weeks is best. But if you have no symptoms by 10 days post encounter, that is also a very good sign.

Happy to be a resource, that’s my job here!

Terri

[AnxeityKing]

So of course I woke up this morning with what appeared to be a small pimple on my scrotum, which of course is never a good thing for someone who is watching for symptoms like a hawk. The pimple itself was about the size of a pinhead, maybe a little bigger and very small amount of white pus came out when I manipulated it. A couple of follow up questions:

(1) Small, singular, pin size pimple on scrotum which has white pus doesn’t comport with herpes does it?

(2) If I do get a primary breakout, is it possible for the lessons to appear only on scrotum and thighs only? My understanding is that it would also appear on genitalia as primary site of infection…just trying to limit anxiety today.

(3) Does a primary outbreak ever have prodrome or is that limited to reoccurrences? Is prodrome syndrome limited to the breakout area or do folks report feeling “uncomfortable” all over their boxer short region?

Thanks Terri

[Terri Warren]

(1) Small, singular, pin size pimple on scrotum which has white pus doesn’t comport with herpes does it?

No, it does not. I don’t think I’ve ever seen herpes present like that with a first infection nor are first infections normally on the scrotum

(2) If I do get a primary breakout, is it possible for the lessons to appear only on scrotum and thighs only? My understanding is that it would also appear on genitalia as primary site of infection…just trying to limit anxiety today.

Yes, I think it would be usually on the penis. The slide component could make things a little different, but I sure don’t think your description of the lesion sounds like herpes to me.

(3) Does a primary outbreak ever have prodrome or is that limited to reoccurrences? Is prodrome syndrome limited to the breakout area or do folks report feeling “uncomfortable” all over their boxer short region?

Prodrome can happen with first infection ,yes. Uncomfortable is a pretty general term, so I’m not sure quite how to respond.

Terri

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