November 19, 2020 at 12:43 am #71827
Yesterday I had a session with an escort. When she bent over it seemed like she had a rash or healing herpes sores on her inner thigh near her anus and extending to her anus. The herpes pics I found online didn’t look like her rash/sores exactly, which is why I thought maybe they just started to heal (maybe she popped sores?).
I barely touched her, but I did put 2 small toys in her anus (I did not have a glove on my hand). It seemed like the the toy touched her anus and when I put it in again I think my fingers touched the part that touched her butt prior (I don’t remember if it touched the rash/sore area exactly, but pretty sure it did for a second or so). I then switch hands to touch my penis to masterbate for 2-3 min. I did this for a bit before realizing I may have touched the part of the toy that touched the sore and was now touching my penis. I stopped and then used a lot of Germ-X hand sanitizer and went in the bathroom and wiped my hands with very wet Clorox/Lysol wipes and even wiped my penis with it (I know seems weird but I was so worried). I did this twice and then again used a lot of hand sanitizer. I then watched her for 15 minutes; not touching my penis, upon which I masterbated to orgasm myself for 3 minutes (onto her; not touching her).
Normally I wouldn’t be worried, but the fact that the toy touched a part of her skin that seemed like a sore or a rash/sore that was healing and then I touched it for a bit and then touched my penis and rubbed my penis makes me worry that I could contract HSV2 or 1.
I’ve already contacted my GP to set up a full STD test to be safe, but my main question is, given this information, what do you think the risk of me contracting hsv2 (or hsv1) from this exposure? I am in a normal long-term monogamous relationship and made a stupid mistake from mental issues. I did not have any intercourse and did not actually touch her body at all. I touched her towel, but used lots of hand sanitizer after and before touching myself.
November 19, 2020 at 11:48 am #71831
I did a bit more research (obviously I’m very nervous and feel so stupid and dumb, especially since my normal partner is so amazing; I just have mental issues and fetishes that are hard to talk to them about).
Anyways I found this slide set (https://www.google.com/amp/s/slideplayer.com/amp/10659334/) and the lesions on the escort looked more like the Syphillis Chancre pictures here. At the same time it kinda seems like maybe it looked like a cross between that picture and the herpes picture, but more so the chancre. The sores were more around her inner thigh going to her Anus. Looking at pictures I’m thinking it’s more syphilis chancres, but I read online those are typically just one rash and not multiple and the escort had a few of these rashes. I’m not sure if ulcerative herpes sores look like syphilis chancre or not.
Hopefully this information helps in assessing my risk.
Also, how long should I wait to get tested. My doctor already sent the test request to the lab so I can go whenever I want.
Thanks again for providing the resource and helping people like me.
November 19, 2020 at 11:53 am #71832
Sorry, I forgot to mention that these lesions were rather large respective to some of the herpes pictures online, but some of the lesions were smaller, but two were large. Also the skin around them didn’t seem red/inflamed. All of this really confuses me and I’m really hoping I didn’t contract anything or at least anything that lasts forever because I was being stupid.
I hope this info helps in assessing my risk.
Is there anything specific I should get tested for that’s not on a usual STD test?
November 19, 2020 at 7:19 pm #71834
I went ahead and paid for follow up questions 🙂
I wanted to additionally ask if I should wait to resume normal sexual activity with my partner (unprotected). For reference she is supposedly HSV1+ but has never had a cold sore in her life and we’ve never had issues.
I’m really worried that I fucked up and ruined something good in my life. I really look forward to your advice Terri.
Thanks in advance!!!!!
November 25, 2020 at 11:26 am #71876Terri WarrenKeymaster
I don’t think that this experience puts you at risk for herpes! You may well be overestimating how easily herpes is transmitted. And syphilis lesions don’t normally come in multiples. Given everything you’ve described, I don’t see a reason not to resume sexual activity with your regular partner. But if you are still concerned, I guess you could wait the 12 weeks and do the IgG test before resuming sex with your partner, but really, that might be overkill.
November 28, 2020 at 12:54 pm #71907
Thank you for calming my fears and worry Terri.
I’m not totally sure it was syphillis or even herpes, as it seemed like the open ulcers/lesions weren’t as inflammed and much larger than what is shown on google searches. Would could cause lesions like this? She was dark and so they looked purple with some minor small red spots.
If we assume they were open herpes ulcers and my hand did touch a sex toy that just touched one of the open sores and then immediately touched and masterbated my penis would u still provide the same recommendation? (That I shouldn’t worry and can resume normal sexual activity?).
Thanks again Terry.
December 1, 2020 at 1:04 pm #71935Terri WarrenKeymaster
Even if this was herpes, the experience with the sex toy and masturbation doesn’t put you at risk.
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