Sweetie, it isn’t that you are bothering me, I just feel badly for taking your money when I don’t feel like I am helping you. If it helps you, I don’t mind answering, just so you know it bothers my conscience to take your money when I don’t feel like I am helping you.
And no, I don’t think the red spot sounds like herpes. If it was herpes, it would be more than red. I would suggest that you try to stop touching it.