Not everyone who has sex, even for a long time, with an infected person gets infected themselves. The female to male transmission rate with no antiviral therapy taken daily by her, no sex with outbreaks and irregular at best condom use is about 4% per year. That is, if 100 uninfected men were having sex twice per week with 100 HSV 2 infected women, four men would become infected. Now that statistic applies when herpes is known to be in the relationship. That was the case in your relationship, I take it. Of course the other possibility is that she really isn’t infected with HSV 2, but you would know far more about her diagnosis and outbreak history than I do at this point.
The LabCorp and Quest ELISA IGG tests are very accurate for HSV 2, less sensitive for HSV 1. Which bring me to another question which is how were you diagnosed with HSV 1 genitally? Swab test? Visual exam? Are you not wondering why the antibody test didn’t pick up your HSV 1 infection?
Terri