Honestly, I wouldn’t rely on dollar store urine dip sticks to diagnose anything! I would much more likely trust the urine tests and cultures done at your doctor’s office. And very good that a prostate exam was done to determine that everything is good down there.
Herpes does not cause vertigo or phlegm in the throat. These things are unrelated to a herpes infection. If you had fluid behind your ear drum, that makes lots of sense for the dizziness. In this situation, I think you should trust your doctor’s impressions about what’s going on with your dizziness.
Yes, I believe that you can stop worrying about herpes completely. Even if your penis was out, if it didn’t touch her vagina or her mouth, it is not a risk for herpes. Herpes does not cause erectile dysfunction and there is no firm evidence that herpes is related to infertility, though there are some preliminary studies looking at the issue, suggesting it is a possibility. But you don’t have herpes from this encounter. I honestly think you can put this aside now from a medical point of view, now you have to do it in your head.
You can ask one more question, if you still have some.
Terri