Unfortunately, there is no time when you can know that transmission if not going to happen. I’ve seen people transmit after 20 years together and I’ve seen many more people transmit in the first three months of a relationship. I think you are going to have to deal with just not knowing. It sounds like you have resigned yourself to the possibility of contracting herpes which is a good emotional place to be in, I think.
The likelihood that your boyfriend actually has herpes is very high, but in the past year, I have seen three people who tested over 4.0 on ELIsA and negative on the western blot. I don’t know why. Two of three were born in India, so I’m wondering if there is something going on there. We could certainly order a western blot for confirmation if he wanted to do that.
I would say if you are testing at 0.8, you may be in the process of serconverting but it could certainly be a true negative. We don’t often see values that high on the negatives. I think it could concerning.
If you want to talk more about this, I’m hear for you.
Terri