Hmmmm. Has your current partner been tested for HSV 2? Have you talked to her already about this? If she does test for HSV 2 and is not infected, then this has to be from finger contact with another sex partner. If she does test positive for HSV 2, did have also have genital to genital sex with her? If she tests positive and you did NOT have intercourse with her, then you may have new infection only on your hand. Did your doctor do any antibody testing for herpes for you at any point in all of this? If not, you cannot know for certain if this is a new infection or an old one if your partner tests positive for HSV 2. I know this is confusing, but do you follow me? . Intact fingers are not susceptible to herpetic whitlow, but if you have a break in the skin or have disruption around the nail, then the virus can get in if you are stimulating your partner sexually with your hand.
Statistics show that the vast majority of people who test antibody positive for HSV 2 will shed virus from the genital tract within a four month period. In your case, I would guess that you are infected genitally as well as digitally, but we can’t be certain. So with regards to future partners, if you never ever have a genital symptom (and that includes the entire area between waist and mid-thigh), it will not be possible to know if you are infected genitally as well. Very frustrating, I know.
If you answer my questions, perhaps I can help you sort this out a bit more.
Terri