I disagree with your doctor. Since you have a partner who has been diagnosed with HSV 2, you need antibody testing for HSV 2. The specific test is IgG for HSV 2. If your doctor won’t do this for you, then you can do it online for yourself. I like healthcheckusa.com. It’s really simple. But be certain you only get tested by IgG, not IgM or anything else. It is ironic that your doctor will test for all those other things and not HSV, which statistically, is the thing that you would most likely have. Eighty percent of those infected with HSV 2 are unaware that they have the infection and depending upon your age, there is almost a 50% chance you could be infected with HSV 2 as an African American woman.
So yes, you could have infected him and didn’t know it.
And he also could have a false positive, depending upon the index value associated with his test. I would ask him about that. It could be a false alarm, you never know.
Or he could have infected you if you are positive, you never know. Do you think he’s had other partners?
You have two more questions so please don’t hesitate to ask.