I am totally not saying that! I am saying there is a reasonable chance that you are infected. And I have no idea if the specific sensations that you have on your vagina or related to herpes or not. Please don’t jump to conclusions, though I know you are tempted to do that. It is totally not obvious! If you had sex between 2010 and 2012 and he was negative in 2012, then I think it suggests that it is less likely that you infected him.
You certainly need to be tested, Miss Educated! You are educated so you can do this and not just resolve yourself to the worst possible scenario; you will take the bull by the horns and find out for yourself what is going on. There is definitely room here for you not to be infected!
When I said herpes is the most likely thing that you would have, I’m not talking about your personally. I am talking about the general adult population, where about 1 in 6 adults in the US is infected with HSV 2. That is more prevalent than any other STI but frequently providers leave out that test. I think they do that because they don’t really know what to do with people who have positive antibody tests but no symptoms. Sometimes they don’t want to upset people, sometimes people can’t afford it, and sometimes, they don’t test because people get upset with positive results and it takes a long time to counsel them and medical schedules don’t always allow for that time. I am NOT talking about you specifically!
Please tell me you understand what I’m saying here and that you understand the value of testing.