First of all, herpes in no ways endangers any one’s life. Second, I think you did tell me that he tested negative in 2012, so you were together having sex for two years and he was still negative, right?
And honestly, where does he get off being mad at you? When you were with him, he tested negative, not positive. And excuse me, but isn’t he the one that was married, not you? And when he reconciled with his wife in 2013, wouldn’t it have been in his best interests, and hers, that he find out about having herpes or not? Don’t you think it is his responsibility to make certain he was tested for everything before he started having sex with her again? How is that at all your fault? It is NOT. If you do have herpes, which we have no idea if you do or not, you didn’t know it and neither do 80% of those infected. It seems to me since he was the married one, he should have insisted and paid for full STD screening for you both before all of this started! I already don’t like this guy at all. It’s one thing for him to test positive for HSV 2 (whether it is accurate or not), but a whole different thing to be made at you over this! OK, so you aren’t happy that you had sex with a married man in retrospect, I get that, might have been there, done that in my lifetime, but you know you would not anything like this intentionally, if at all, and his whining about it completely makes me disrespect him. You hold you head up as you go through this process. Maybe you two do have herpes, but him being mad at you is just making two problems out of one. Don’t buy in.
And let me know how it goes, OK?