Correct, symptoms that you describe as going on for a long time are highly unlikely to be herpes.
I’m wondering – has anyone done a prostate exam for you the course of these visits? That could be a possibility.
If you are still concerned about herpes – is it possible to contact this person and pay for them to get tested? If negative then you could relax. I doubt if she is positive you would worry any more than you already are.
You have one more opportunity to post with this membership. Let me know if you still have concerns that I can help with on this forum