May I ask how you were initially diagnosed with herpes? And when you say you have had painless red rashes after that, where were they located?
Condoms reduce transmission by about 30-50% depending upon the study that you read. Antiviral therapy taken daily reduces the risk of transmission by almost 50%. Virus can be shed from the shaft of the penis, with or without symptoms, even though most of your outbreaks are on the tip of the penis.
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