Reply To: herpes on buttocks and keeping partner safe

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I don’t believe he has been tested. I think he just thinks he doesn’t have it. Should I have him get tested? If he tests positive then he could not have gotten it from me correct? since it takes about 3 months for it to show up and it has been about a month since our first encounter? He has been asking about things we can do and I wasn’t sure about any of it..So he won’t get anything from his genital area rubbing against my buttocks during sex or otherwise without a lesion present? do you think taking the birth control other than for pregnancy issues would help with my outbreaks? does that sound logical to you?
also, should I get tested for HSV 1 or do they do that automatically when I got tested long ago? I have never had a cold sore in my life but wasn’t sure if I could have it vaginally and not know it. Would that make any difference if I did in what we can do?
Thanks for your quick response and sorry for all the questions..