This is what I said about your thoughts that you had acquired a new strain: ” I know you want me to make some statement about whether you have acquired a new strain of HSV 1 somehow and my statement is no, I do not believe that you have”. All I’m saying is that I think you wanted me to make a definitive statement about it, not that you had acquired a new strain.
Yes, when I go to your previous postings I can find information about your testing. When you started a new thread, I didn’t have the old one in front of me anymore to compare.
I think the best information you can give your partner is that he needs to be tested to see if he already has HSV 1 or not. If not, there is a small chance he could acquire this from you. Like you, if he is infected genitally, he will have infrequent recurrences. If he acquires it orally from you, his recurrences will be a little more frequent. But all of that is manageable with medicines. It is also possible that his long term partner has HSV 1 also which puts him a risk. If she has a history of cold sores, he could get it, just like he could get it from you. The irony will be if he tests and finds he is HSV 2 positive. In some ways that would great simplify the picture.
My admonition about telling him is that sometimes the presentation affects how the news is heard.
I’m sure will you do fine. I hope he is also positive so this does not need to be a difficult issue in your relationship in the future.
Terri