Thank you for your answer and your compassion. My wife and I are trying to work things out through professional counselling. My memories of the encounter are very unclear and it is obviously unpleasant to think about but I am trying to rectify things as best I can.
I’ve read that up to 15% of people with HSV1 never show on a blood test. That is very distressing to me. I’m not worried about me, but about passing it to my wife. I want to take you at your word but my symptoms just fit so perfectly with everything I’ve read about HSV1 infection. I’m not a hypochondriac in the slightest, the lymph node and lower back pain and now this red sore is very real. Nothing else seems to explain it. I keep hearing “the chances are low”, but this was a sex worker. So my additional questions:
Do those 10-15% of people who never test positive for HSV1 only apply to the IGG, or the Western Blot as well?
My wife has HSV1 orally (she gets cold sores frequently). Will this give her resistance towards getting it in her genitals? If so, what level of resistance? If she did get it, is she more likely to react badly since she gets cold sores? I mean over the course of our lives I feel like I would inevitably give it to her 🙁
If I have it, could I have contracted it genitally or would it have been orally? Maybe I didn’t use the condom properly or it was the skin around my penis, it’s hard to remember.
If it isn’t HSV1, what else could it be? What else can I do?
I know I sound like a ranting crazy person, but I’m at the end of my tether. I take pills to sleep. I’ve spent thousands on tests, medical appointments and medication. I don’t know what else to do. I’m so worried about my wife. I’ve hurt her badly enough, I don’t want to hurt her anymore. Thank you so much, Terri.