While the IgG test Mrs. 30% of type I infection, and I cannot tell you if you might have oral herpes or not, I feel pretty certain that you can except that these genital symptoms were unrelated to herpes. First of all, new herpes would not take two months to show up. If you are infected newly, symptoms appear within 2 to 10 days. Also, your description of the lesions do not fit at all well with what herpes looks like. I’m so sad that you have waited all this time to be tested and that you have been rather depressed about this for years, though I cannot know if your depression and anxiety are related only to herpes. If you wish to be sexual with someone else at this point, I think you should go for it!