First, I would suggest that your partner actually be tested to determine her status in regards to herpes type one infection or even type II. You are both guessing at this time and that’s just is a very good thing to do. If she turns out to truly be HSV one negative, then you could take daily antiviral medicine to reduce the risk of infecting her by about half. If she acquired Whitlow, it would be obvious. She would have blisters on her finger on the red base and they would be very painful. I have seen lots of Whitlow in my career and it is unmistakable. If she acquired Whitlow, she could take daily antiviral medicine to reduce the frequency of recurrences, and if she didn’t get recurrences, she could cover the Whitlow and continue to do her work. People who have genital type I infection do not give off virus often and very rarely transmit via sexual contact.