You are way too worried here, given the reality of herpes transmission.
It is not really abnormal with new infection with HSV 1 to have more recurrences in the first year of having the disease. Your immune system is getting used to dealing with the virus – give it a little time. I would say you don’t need to be very worried about autoinoculation at this point. Usually, most people by now will have mounted an immune response that keeps that from happening.
You need to wash your hands only after using the restroom and 15-20 second with warm water and soap is all you should be doing to avoid the development of obsessive compulsive disorder.