January 10, 2015 at 6:07 pm #2824

Jill

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Terri, we are going to counseling and working on our relationship and trust, but this issue has been a major hurdle. If he was telling the truth, how and where did he get herpes (1or2). If he indeed had herpes then it is like confirmation of a lie and you can’t build trust on that. If he indeed is herpes free it is not confirmation of truth, but could go either way. Because of this herpes issue we are not having sex or kissing. All of this has been a very trying time and it has become hard to trust anything. How likely is it that this could be a false negative? Should he test again? His story is that, other than me, his last possible exposure would have been somewhere around 21 years ago. I am wondering what someone with herpes, test numbers are like after many years, and is it possible to be married and having sex regularly (sometimes with condoms and other times without) for over 10 years without passing it to your spouse.

Thank you for doing this forum Terri! I am grateful to have an understanding place to find educated answers in an area that seems so confusing and misinformed.