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It is 5 am on a Sunday morning here so here dr is at least 24 hours away. I doubt it would have been intercourse or her receiving oral sex. She has said it would be so unfair as she was not promiscuous like some of her friends. Given behaviours here I could only imagine skin to skin contact – wouldn’t that be enough? or oral sex to him. They looks so early that I could not easily see. Her eyes are better. But she said she looked because it felt a bit sore. To me it looked like yellow spots that were about to raise. I am tempted to keep persuading her its nothing, to keep her life on track, she is emotionally fragile and at the very least would slump into deep depression. Her uni course would get dumped at the very least. The academic year doesn’t start for 2 months. If she knew now she would defer the year. If we got through this without her knowing and it reoccurred later, and she found out it was herpes later in the year, she would drop out and fail. She has said numerous times if she had herpes she would kill herself. I am torn. Despite tests, I had dreaded this would happen – ever since she said she had tender lymph nodes last week. They were on the other side of the groin under the few pimples that looked different to this. They went down quickly with antibiotic cream and the nodes stopped being tender. I realise that not much else can cause nodes. And then when she said her buttock on the other side tingled generally around the buttock, 2 days ago, I just knew. The spots were similar location to the rash on the other side, right in the crevice and near the labia or a bit higher toward front. I don’t think she felt nodes on this side -at least yet. The tingling could not really be anything else could it? 4 doctors and 2 sets of blood tests failed to see this! She even had swabs in side and out at times – though I know they would be unlikely to pick up something unless weeping. Are there harder to detect strains of herpes developing? How often have you seen herpes slip through undetected in this way? You didn’t answer my question about shingles? Does it have the same tingling pattern on buttock? All these symptoms wouldn’t be here for nothing would they? When she wakes I will look at the progress. Please address my questions ie how rare is this?, shingles? Is she truly this rare an so unlucky one? What of the tingling? Should I calm and deceive her? Where else could she get tested on a sunday? thankyou