First let me ask you how you were diagnosed with genital HSV 1? Let’s assume for a moment that you were diagnosed by a swab test – that’s the only way you can know if it is genital infection. You do not get genital herpes from waxing but waxing can elicit a recurrence as you are irritating the nerve in that area.
I would strongly disagree with your doctor about so many things. First, your fiance is extremely unlikely to acquire this genitally since he has a history of cold sores. I have observed this once in my practice of 33 years and even then, I’m not positive about the accuracy of the reporting person. And I have read about it once online in a forum. So that’s 33 years and at least once, maybe twice? That’s incredibly rare.
I also strongly disagree that you should be wiping toilet seats when you get an outbreak with Clorox. First of all, if your outbreaks are genital, the part of your body with the outbreak is in the center of the toilet where there is no seat, only an opening. Second, if somehow you managed to rub your labia on the toilet seat, the virus only lives a very short time off of humans, so I wouldn’t give any of this a second thought. Almost half the population has HSV 1 so if you break up, there is a 50-50 chance you’ll find someone else with HSV 1, right?
I think your worries are perhaps greater than the reality of the situation.