Hope you are keeping well.
Thanks for your last response. I am very well aware that nothing is 100%. It is still very hard for me with these tingling feelings. I went to a sexual health clinic yesterday on the advice of a nurse at my local hospital. The nurse was great, but the doctor was terrible. He told me not to bother with suppressive therapy because my partner would end up catching the virus anyway long term. He advised me to go off the medication. I tried to explain to him about the swab I had done, and at that point he told me the swab result was irrelevant because according to him, it isn’t possible to test for the virus unless there is a lesion present. It very much feels like my life is consumed with thinking about, reading about and worrying about this virus. I barely have time for things I enjoy.
I still haven’t slept with my new partner. The other night he gave me oral sex (which i had trouble enjoying because I was worried about herpes) and there was some genital to genital contact for about 30 seconds before I realized he was getting carried away and stopped it. About 10 mins later I gave him oral sex. I’m
Worried that the small amount of contact was enough to transfer virus and that the moisture/friction from the oral sex afterwards could have increased the risk. Assuming this tingling is not the virus constantly shedding- I know that I may well be worrying about nothing. But I can’t stop with the what if’s. I definitely think that my partner has thought about this now and is ready to sleep with me, but I am so anxious about it that I doubt i’d be able to enjoy it- let alone survive the 10 day wait afterwards to see if he gets it.
It seems crazy that while on 1500mg of valtrex I could be having daily prodromal symptoms, I have also noted that many others on the support forums experience these symptoms. Someone has suggested cutting out all sugar but I really just don’t see that making a difference? If this tingling, as the swab suggested, is not due to herpes what could it be?! I feel crazy worrying about this all the time. Thanks once again for your time,
it is invaluable to be able to speak with someone who understands this virus.