Thanks for your response, Terri. I did have an STI screening, but when I requested to be tested for HSV, the doctor was extremely hesitant. I explained my reasoning based on the circumstances of this new relationship, and she understood why I might want to know my status. However, ultimately, she cautioned me against it as I have never had any symptoms of either HSV1 nor HSV2. She told me I could have the blood test at any time, but she encouraged me to think it over. Her rationale was that HSV1 is so common it isn’t worth doing the test, and since I have never had any symptoms of HSV2, she questioned how the test result (positive or negative) would impact my current relationship or future relationships (aka I would need to disclose even if I am asymptomatic). Ultimately, I have put off getting tested because I figured I would only engage in protected sex with this new partner anyway until our relationship was more serious. I left that appointment feeling very conflicted.
I am continuing to date this man (and it is going very well I might add). He is now on anti-virals, and we have engaged in protected sex. I foresee us continuing to build our relationship for the long term. The thing that bothers/perplexes me are his symptoms. He claims to have never had lesions or blisters on his genital region. His right index finger has never recovered from his initial outbreak. One side of it is extremely rough with small cuts, but it never blisters. His eczema is probably not helping that. He also thinks he has outbreaks on the inside edge of his feet, but has never had the lesions swabbed.
Is it possible he has HSV2, but not genitally? I’m just not sure how to manage this in an intimate relationship when his case is not textbook. I’m not sure what to be aware of or look out for or even the right questions to ask.