Reply To: My husband is terrified that I may give him herpes, wants divorce

[Kscherie]

Thank you. He said he was tested through the medical facility on base (Air Force). I go in on Thursday to get tested for HSV-1 and 2. Yes, this is our marriage and I love him to death, but if I have HSV-2 and he has nothing (which I trust that he is telling the truth with his texts), I’m at a standstill. He loves intimacy – sexual intimacy with me and does not want to use protection with his wife, which I understand. I need to find a doctor/therapist in Las Vegas who specializes in HSV-1 and 2 specifically who can calm his fears. I’ve had 4 sexual partners since finding out 13 years ago and have never infected any of them. He just believes it’ll be his luck that he gets infected. I am always fully aware when I am about to have an outbreak, but can a person shed the virus and never end up having an outbreak? He has agreed to go with me to talk to someone, but only to help me understand and move on from his decision. I need to find someone who can give him a clearer understanding of the situation. Any suggestions?

Thanks!