Yours is a unique situation and I can see why you are having trouble understanding what is going on.
Here is my best guess and it is just that, a guess. I think you likely contracted HSV 2 orally sometime around your first cold sore in Nov. 2013, most likely by giving oral sex to someone who has HSV 2 (and may or may not know it). You don’t mention anything about your sexual history in your post so I don’t know well this fits with reality. The reason I think that about the timing is that you had no antibody a couple of weeks later when you were tested. It takes a while to produce antibody.
Whether you have genital herpes also or not we don’t know. If you can think back to the sexual encounters that you had around that time, it might be helpful. Generally speaking, we believe that people who have HSV 2 antibody are at LEAST infected genitally, though they may also be infected orally. If you only gave oral sex to someone around that time, then you may only have it orally.
You are having an unusually large number of outbreaks for someone with HSV 2 oral infection (and I would term it either oral or facial, it doesn’t really matter). The virus is living in your trigeminal nerve and that nerve group supplies nerve to pretty much all of the face. It could be transmitted via kissing, yes and also oral sex.
Have you thought about taking antiviral therapy?
Terri