1) I disagree with your urologist. If you had gonorrhea or chlamydia, that would be true, but because herpes is not always active on the skin of an infected person. I have couples who have been together 25 years where one person is infected and the other still is not.
2) The earlier I have seen anyone seroconvert, from INFECTION, not symptoms, is 10 days. By 3 weeks from infection, 50% of those who will be positive, will be positive.
3) Yes, you could have been infected for many years and just now having symptoms, yes.
You can order your western blot test through our clinic. The cost is $250, which includes the office consultation and the test itself. Yes, you can just call the clinic and set it up with the front desk. It takes about 1-3 weeks to get results.
Terri