I view tender and painful as different from each other. The painful urination come from urine passing over open lesions. Yes, people who have recurrent disease sometimes have a couple of days of pain down the back of the leg as a prodromal symptom but the pain is not normally long lasting. That pain is not long lasting. Sores do itch. Itching by itself could be many many things.
Any inflammation of any body part below the waist can cause in increase is the size of lymph nodes, as can cancer and other autoimmune disorders. Painful urination can be caused by many things as well including bacterial and fungal infections (ones that are not routinely picked up on STD screening tests like mycoplasma and ureaplasma. These can also causes itching and enlarged lymph nodes.
I have no idea if that comment is valid or is not valid. I have been told that there are people out there who make up test results to scare partners they were angry at or for the drama of the responses. If you want to base your medical life on people who report who knows what on the internet, you choice. I don’t. In 32 years of practice I have had nine people who tested positive by PCR and negative by western blot. That isn’t very many considering the number of western blots that we have done. But you’re right, it’s possible. I try not to live my life or direct my patients to live their lives based on the tiny percentages of what could happen or we would never live to our fullest possibilities. Honestly the odds of you getting herpes from one episode of genital rubbing are statistically extremely low. But I am finished trying to explain this to you.
I find your attitude on this board to be quite offensive. If you read back over your responses to me, I hope you are aware of this. For this reason, I am asking that your money be refunded ASAP and that you do not post here any longer. I’ve lived my entire professional life trying to help people who have herpes. I see hundreds and hundreds of people who have herpes in my clinic every year. One would hope I’ve learned just a little over this time. I’ve published in the most prestigious medical journals both here and abroad – New England Journal of Medicine, Lancet, Journal of the American Medical Association, Journal of Infectious Disease and others. And believe me, as a nurse practitioner, this was not an easy task. By default, my practice includes many many many people who believe they have herpes in spite of overwhelming evidence that they do not. I don’t recall anyone quite as unpleasant, strident and demanding as you.