Your OB and I could not disagree more on this subject. First of all, you need to know the value of your positive antibody test. If there is no value, find out the name of the lab that did the test, perhaps you can find it out that. Or have your doctor ask for the index value. If it is above 3.5, it is very likely that you are infected. If it is below that, then it may be a false positive. You are going to have to do some homework, but this is important and even if you have to be pleasantly pushy, you can get the information that you need. And be certain it is a type specific IgG test and not an IgM test or a combined HSV 1 and 2 test.
When your partner tells you that he has been tested, I would ask if he is certain that herpes is included in that testing. If he won’t produce test results for you, let him know that you have tested positive for HSV 2 and that you may pursue legal action if he does not produce these test results for you. Having sex with someone knowing you have herpes and not disclosing is cause for civil action in many states and criminal action in others.
If you truly are positive for HSV 2, then taking medicine daily can reduce your risk of transmitting the virus to others. Virus can be transmitted even if you have no symptoms at all.
Let’s start with getting clearer about your diagnostic testing.
Terri