Either of your could have had herpes for years and are just noticing symptoms, yes. Without IgG testing, it is very difficult to say what’s going on here. The lesions on his penis do sound like herpes to me, yes. It is possible that you acquired HSV 1 from your previous partner, gave oral sex to this new partner and gave him HSV 1 genitally as well as giving it to his mouth with kissing. Again, that is all speculation. I seriously doubt that he inoculated his penis from his mouth. What I meant about having it in both locations is that you acquire it in both locations at the same or close encounters. One does not need to have sores necessarily the first time they acquire infection. So the lesions could be HSV 1 or HSV 2 and it is very important that he contact the provider who did the swab test and be certain typing has been added to the lab request IF the swab test is positive.
You can both get IgG type specific antibody tests from a number of sources online. I often have patients use healthcheckusa.com. Remember NO IgG testing!!
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Terri