Some men chose to wear underwear when having sex with a woman with herpes. And the female condom is more protective than the male condom. If you are on suppressive therapy and use a condom, the chances are so low that you will infect him – probably a 1-2 % chance per year, with having sex twice a week. more sex, more risk.
I hope he makes up his mind quickly about this so you are not left in suspense over this situation. So if he says no, he doesn’t want to take the risk, 25% of women between 14-49 in the US has HSV 2 and a larger percentage over the age of 49. So if he decides to let this criteria figure into his choice of partners over the age of 60 and tests them all, he could be sexless for a while! I really really disagree with his position. Herpes is such a small thing in the big picture of life, especially at this age! To find someone you are compatible with and care for and fit well with – how hard is that?? Oh well, I’ll get off my bandwagon and shut up.
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Terri