If the other partner tested negative, and it’s accurate, you are not at risk of acquiring HSV 2.
I have never seen any reduction of time needed to wait. UW is holding fast at 12 weeks for the blot, but it takes longer to become positive than the IgG test.
If he tests negative at 9 weeks out, I think you can be quite clear that he is not infected.
This has really gotten a bit out of control, don’t you think? To ask him to test again since you’ve broken up? I wouldn’t be surprised if he said no.