The infectious disease doctor you talk to is indeed quite wrong. Couples go lifetime together without transmitting. I don’t know why they would say such a thing. Two outbreaks a year is minimal in terms of the average number of outbreaks that people with HSV to get. Your case is not highly transmissible but it is possible that you could transmit even while on antiviral medicine though the risk is quite low. I would say if you’re having a lot of intercourse in your partner is concerned about transmission, condoms should be used with every intercourse. As you move into the relationship further, usually condoms are the first thing to go and antiviral therapy continues. I think the most promising research right now is on gene editing is coming out of the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Institute in Seattle.
Terri