I can help you with the western blot order. You would need to make an appointment with me for a telehealth visit on this website.
IF you are infected, we don’t have any data on transmission to a mouth via oral sex, no.
You should ask to see your partner’s test results to be sure herpes was included.
I totally disagree with your doctor’s opinion. IF you are infected, daily antiviral medication reduces transmission by almost half. If you are positive and your partner is negative. I would highly recommend that you be on suppression to reduce transmission.